Last month I proposed a model of change not based on self-improvement, but on rethinking your entire relationship to yourself. Mindfulness, or what I refer to here as stepping off the hamster wheel, is a learned skill that research shows is profoundly effective in reducing stress and worrying, improving memory, focus, and relationship quality, as well as empathy and compassion for self and others. Mindfulness is a way to upgrade your operating system that literally rewires th